What the bible says about dating older men
You, the older man, are not necessarily our dad, but you are a “father’s friend” — a “neighbor who is near” (Proverbs ), who teaches us about “reproach,” “prudence,” “suffering,” “adultery,” and “cursing” (Proverbs –14) — how to (or avoid) all of it. It’s hard to “do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3).But we might just learn how to do it for others through your example.
They are being discipled, whether that be organizationally or organically, whether they are part of a church’s system for discipleship or they just found an older man or an older woman and invited that person to speak into their lives.That security produces amazing results in relationships, and in men in general. We want to be like you, as you are like Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1). Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . And I think those pieces are a much safer gauge than whether they highlight passages in their Bible and show up to service every week.Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating?How do you know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too quickly toward marriage?
I am going to be real cautious about saying there is such a thing as “too fast.” What I would rather ask is this: What’s driving the speed?
On behalf of other younger men, with humility and boldness, we plead with our older brothers for five things. Young men need to hear, “Everything’s going to be okay.” Most days we’re pretty sure our lives are an utter failure, a disaster zone even. You pray, “From my youth you have taught me,” and, “Even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come” (Psalm –18).
Young men are often asking of older men, “Do you care about me? ” We can watch You Tube videos for advice, wisdom, and inspiration for life’s complexities. Now, for every gray hair, we want one story of God’s faithfulness, one lesson from years of learning God and his world. Was there a time when you had that same life experience? We need to hear, “God is faithful in that situation, because I’ve seen it — I have involved in this tragic world — in a young man’s tragic life — because sometimes we’re not so sure.
But if you are in a context in which you have watched the person’s godliness, you have marveled at their character, you have rejoiced in what God has done in them and through them, then speed isn’t a big factor. What drove the speed wasn’t a flare-up of emotions — it wasn’t a fear of loneliness, or desperation, like maybe this is my only shot. Rather, there was knowledge of his faithfulness to God, his desire to serve the Lord, and his seriousness about the things of God.
We have a staff person here who met and married her husband in a matter of months. I hardly knew they were dating before they were engaged.
We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.