Divorced catholic and dating
All those involved in this ministry of love and truth must be ever mindful that these persons are not free to enter a second "marriage" since in the eyes of God and of His Church, they are married.
Separation is not a free moral option of one or even both of the spouses.I speak especially of the widowed, the separated, the "divorced and remarried." The ministry of Christ through His Church must be ever more and more efficaciously available to these wounded human beings.They reflect in a real way the image of the crucified Christ, and in ministering to each of them, we minister to Jesus Christ.The thrust of such a ministry must have taken into consideration that the widowed, the separated, the "divorced," and the "divorced and remarried" constitute groups of persons in entirely different circumstances.Though persons in each of these groupings have needs in common with the others, in fact in common with all members of the Body of Christ, yet the spiritual status of all of these persons cannot be considered essentially the same.Though providing cultural and social opportunities of participation for the widowed can be very helpful. Pastoral counsel should always be sought and a charitable consideration should be given to attitudes of children and relatives.
It is especially in the realm of the spiritual that meaningful aid can be rendered the widowed. However, children and relatives and close friends and the parish community should be understanding of the rights and needs of the widowed and offer loving support and understanding cooperation.
She evidences authenticity when she professes and proclaims mercy.
On the thirtieth day of November, the First Sunday of Advent, 1980, our Holy Father issued his most recent encyclical letter, Dives in Misericordia, which is a "magna charta" on the mercy of God, and I recommend that the sons and daughters of this Local Church read it and meditate upon it.
Days of recollection, an annual spiritual retreat especially tailored to uplift and inspire the widowed to a new fullness of life in Christ are readily available means to change the outlook of the widowed where present difficulties will appear as possibilities of greater union with Christ. Without the anchor of their Catholic faith and the sure knowledge that they are loved as persons by the living church, in their loneliness, possible frustration and inability in some instances to accept the death of a spouse with perfect resignation to God's Holy Will, they can become easily victims of our secularist society with its neopagan ethics.
In his encyclical letter, "Holy Virginity," Pope Pius XII observes concerning the widowed "…others after the death of their spouse, have consecrated to God their remaining years in the unmarried state . The widowed are vulnerable to temptations such as dating "divorced" persons, which indiscretions can readily lead to an invalid second marriage.
Apostolates such as "Marriage Encounter" can prove to be a valuable aid in preventing marital breakup and in the restoration of Christian conjugal renewal.