They’re just looking for infatuation as well, and they don’t have the capacity to love someone at the moment.
I’m not a stupid person, I know that there’s a difference between infatuation and love.That’s not at all what I keep getting myself into, though. My hope is that eventually I’ll start looking in the right places and I’ll find that love that I’ve been looking for.I end up thinking everyone could be “The One.” When I’m mistaking infatuation for love, it’s easier to believe that a person is super significant.What I’m really looking for is genuine love with another person.I’m looking for groundedness, commitment, and kindness.I find myself convincing myself that I know what I feel is true.
Either they feel too similar or I’m really good at lying to myself. I’m so excited by the idea of a person that I’m totally unable to see the red flags in front of me.
I get myself all worked up in a frenzy over this person, so when it ends, I’m devastated even if we were only together a short time. What sucks even more is that the other person generally isn’t suffering as much as I am, so I feel stupid.
I know I’m not stupid, but the over the top hurt makes me feel that way. I keep going after people who are also emotionally unavailable.
This is the infatuation taking over my mind, rendering me totally useless.
I won’t find the right person for me from chasing highs. I just absolutely love when I have chemistry with someone, whether physical or emotional. I sometimes chase it even when it isn’t in my best interest.
Physical chemistry can be so lovely that it’s blinding.