Dating help for teenage girls
Megan*, a senior at Myers Park High School in Charlotte, says only about 20 percent of these relationships result in an official couple.
To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.For instance, among Megan’s circle of about seven close girlfriends, only two have boyfriends.The rest are either completely single or talking to someone.Yes, the prom as we knew it still exists, but even its drama pales in comparison to today’s boy-girl relationship issues.“It’s not your parents’ dating anymore,” concedes Robin Gurwitch, a clinical psychologist at the Duke Center for Child and Family Health.This is a prime opportunity to find out what they find appropriate and desirable in a romantic partner, says Crystal Reardon, director of counseling for Wake County Public School System. You have to respect your children’s feelings but also want to help keep them safe.” What to watch for: Girls usually don’t want to bring someone they’re just talking to home to their parents, say both Megan and Jennifer, so be prepared for some flak if you insist.
“You never want the guy to think you’re going, ‘Oh, we’re dating, so I want you to meet them,’” Megan says.
Young teens have especially fragile egos, so negative peer feedback on social media can be especially damaging.
Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.
Case in point: There’s a myth in teen circles that you can’t get STDs from oral sex, Gurwitch notes.
She says as cringe-inducing as this conversation will be, it has to get done. “There’s something about not sitting next to each other on a couch that makes this easier for both you and your child.” Just because teens are more casual and sophisticated about dating doesn’t mean they don’t still suffer heartbreak.
Even 14- and 15-year-olds can fall in love, Reardon says.