Dating girl wants friends
Have you ever fallen in love with a girl, but she does not like you as much as you do? She possesses all the qualities you want; unfortunately, you simply can’t capture her attention.
Her rationale is, “I’m attracted to you, we’re compatible in bed and I love hanging out with you, but I can’t see me spending the rest of my life with you.I have made repeated attempts to do this, but they all ultimately fail. Thanks for the email reminder, R, that relationship questions know no gender boundaries.I don’t call her and she doesn’t call me, but we run into each other, and end up in bed every time. You’re the traditional woman in this scenario, and I’m pretty sure that any woman here could tell you EXACTLY what to do.” She likes your company, likes to chat with you and she could even share stories about the men in her life.Don’t deceive yourself that she might be a little bit interested.This is all my own failing, because she has made clear to me EXACTLY what she wants, with no pretense. But since you asked me, and I’m a guy, I’m going to lay it out for you in guy terms. And what you’ve now discovered, at 21, is that, often having something flawed is better than having nothing. It means scrapping the relationship you’ve been building for 11 months. She knows me a lot better than anyone else out there, we do have great sex, and I don’t have to take her on expensive dates.” And that’s how you find yourself right back where you started. A woman I loved dumped me primarily because she couldn’t handle who I was – a dating coach, a flirt, and unapologetic about both.
This would explain why we stay in dead-end jobs and dysfunctional relationships way past their expiration dates. It means you suddenly have a lot of time to fill that was previously occupied. A few weeks after she broke up with me, she came back to figure out how to make things work.
Nothing had changed – except we were both a little scared and lonely on our own.
That fear and loneliness was bringing us back together, and would have been the easiest thing to give into. For two reasons: 1) After 11 months, you know this girl well enough to know exactly what you’d be getting if you took her back. She wants to use you like a sex toy and not deal with you as a boyfriend. Think about all the reasons you resent your ex and use them as a justification to cut her off cold-turkey.
Worse still, if she says, “…not in that way, I'm not sure, or I'm not ready…”, think twice.
She might even say her focus is on something else like career or business.
I noticed how you said “while” they date the person they cheated on you with.